Projection:
It is usually believed that when we speak the truth, we need to be frank and outspoken. And with this attitude we sometimes tend to become harsh in our words too. We believe that only when we are assertive in this way, will our words be effective. But practically it is found that when our words are without sweetness we will only find temporary results.
Solution:
In order to have lasting effect when we have to give correction to someone we need to take care that there is sweetness in our attitude and voice too. Only then will there be the desired effect in the words that we speak and we will find people bringing about change in themselves.
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Showing posts with label Message For The Soul. Show all posts
Monday, July 26, 2010
Sunday, July 25, 2010
“Anger comes where there is discontentment.”
Projection:
When we don’t get what we want or when people don’t do what we expect them to do we experience discontentment. When there is discontentment, when our desires aren’t fulfilled we experience anger. Then trying to do away with anger without knowing the actual reason, doesn’t work.
Solution:
When we find ourselves getting angry with someone or some situation, we need to first check what is the true reason for our anger. Once we find the cause of it, which is some expectation of ours, we will be able to work at overcoming it. we will then be able to get rid of our anger too.
When we don’t get what we want or when people don’t do what we expect them to do we experience discontentment. When there is discontentment, when our desires aren’t fulfilled we experience anger. Then trying to do away with anger without knowing the actual reason, doesn’t work.
Solution:
When we find ourselves getting angry with someone or some situation, we need to first check what is the true reason for our anger. Once we find the cause of it, which is some expectation of ours, we will be able to work at overcoming it. we will then be able to get rid of our anger too.
Saturday, July 24, 2010
“When our vision is on our aim, we will continue to progress.”
Projection:
Sometimes as we move along we suddenly stop. We no more find the progress that should be there in our life. At such times we don’t really understand what the reason is. We do try to bring about changes but it doesn’t always work and we find ourselves stagnating.
Solution:
When on a journey, we are sure to come across many scenes that are beautiful or distracting. But when we know where we have to go we will never be distracted but will move on appreciating each scene that comes our way. In life too, when we are faced with a situation that is not in keeping with our aim we need to pay special attention not to get carried away with such side-scenes.
Sometimes as we move along we suddenly stop. We no more find the progress that should be there in our life. At such times we don’t really understand what the reason is. We do try to bring about changes but it doesn’t always work and we find ourselves stagnating.
Solution:
When on a journey, we are sure to come across many scenes that are beautiful or distracting. But when we know where we have to go we will never be distracted but will move on appreciating each scene that comes our way. In life too, when we are faced with a situation that is not in keeping with our aim we need to pay special attention not to get carried away with such side-scenes.
Friday, July 23, 2010
“When our vision is on our aim, we will continue to progress.”
Projection:
Sometimes as we move along we suddenly stop. We no more find the progress that should be there in our life. At such times we don’t really understand what the reason is. We do try to bring about changes but it doesn’t always work and we find ourselves stagnating.
Solution:
When on a journey, we are sure to come across many scenes that are beautiful or distracting. But when we know where we have to go we will never be distracted but will move on appreciating each scene that comes our way. In life too, when we are faced with a situation that is not in keeping with our aim we need to pay special attention not to get carried away with such side-scenes.
Sometimes as we move along we suddenly stop. We no more find the progress that should be there in our life. At such times we don’t really understand what the reason is. We do try to bring about changes but it doesn’t always work and we find ourselves stagnating.
Solution:
When on a journey, we are sure to come across many scenes that are beautiful or distracting. But when we know where we have to go we will never be distracted but will move on appreciating each scene that comes our way. In life too, when we are faced with a situation that is not in keeping with our aim we need to pay special attention not to get carried away with such side-scenes.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
“To be an inspiration to many is to be a hero actor.”
Projection:
When we see negativity in others, we usually think and speak about it. We then take no inspiration to think and act positive. The more the attention is drawn towards negativity, our actions will become negative too.
Solution:
Whatever the situation we are in, we need to make effort to change our own actions and turn them to positive. We will then be free from looking at the negativity in others. And our actions will become an inspiration to those around us, which will inspire them to become positive too.
When we see negativity in others, we usually think and speak about it. We then take no inspiration to think and act positive. The more the attention is drawn towards negativity, our actions will become negative too.
Solution:
Whatever the situation we are in, we need to make effort to change our own actions and turn them to positive. We will then be free from looking at the negativity in others. And our actions will become an inspiration to those around us, which will inspire them to become positive too.
“To be humble is to be a source of happiness to all around. "
Projection:
Sometimes we find that we don’t mean to be negative to others but people seem to be displeased with us. When there is any kind of sorrow experienced or if others are experiencing any negative feelings, it means we are not working with our inner humility.
Solution:
We need to develop regard for all around us. When we work with this regard there will be humility within us. This naturally enables others to experience happiness. To the extent that even in the most negative situations others will experience happiness.
Sometimes we find that we don’t mean to be negative to others but people seem to be displeased with us. When there is any kind of sorrow experienced or if others are experiencing any negative feelings, it means we are not working with our inner humility.
Solution:
We need to develop regard for all around us. When we work with this regard there will be humility within us. This naturally enables others to experience happiness. To the extent that even in the most negative situations others will experience happiness.
Monday, July 19, 2010
“The one who is royal plays with the jewels of knowledge.”
Projection:
Throughout the day several times we find ourselves performing such actions or speaking such words that hurt others. Such behavior actually reflects the fact that we are playing with stones instead of jewels.
Solution:
Real jewels are such words and actions that are filled with knowledge or truth. Knowledge gives us understanding which brings sweetness in our words and accuracy in our actions and this is real royalty.
Throughout the day several times we find ourselves performing such actions or speaking such words that hurt others. Such behavior actually reflects the fact that we are playing with stones instead of jewels.
Solution:
Real jewels are such words and actions that are filled with knowledge or truth. Knowledge gives us understanding which brings sweetness in our words and accuracy in our actions and this is real royalty.
Sunday, July 18, 2010
“To see ourselves in the mirror of knowledge is to bring progress in ourselves.”
Projection:
The usual way of looking at ourselves when things don’t go right with us is to either look at ourselves with self-pity or to point out others’ mistakes. When we do this we lose the opportunity of learning from whatever has happened and so there is no progress.
Solution:
The ideal way of looking at ourselves when things go wrong is to look with a knowldgeful eye and see what we can improve in ourselves. We only have to look and we are sure to find something that we can work on and improve. This brings about real progress in us.
The usual way of looking at ourselves when things don’t go right with us is to either look at ourselves with self-pity or to point out others’ mistakes. When we do this we lose the opportunity of learning from whatever has happened and so there is no progress.
Solution:
The ideal way of looking at ourselves when things go wrong is to look with a knowldgeful eye and see what we can improve in ourselves. We only have to look and we are sure to find something that we can work on and improve. This brings about real progress in us.
“The ones with pure love bring benefit to all.”
Projection:
Each day of ours is usually spent in doing things for ourselves and providing for our needs and desires. We seem to have no time for others. We are usually caught up with a few people, which brings attachment and expectations. We then find ourselves getting caught up with the weaknesses of others.
Solution:
We need to check if our love for others is pure. Where there is pure true love there is kindness and the attitude of bringing benefit. With this attitude of ours we will be able to see each one’s potential for perfection. They too will be able to then work towards their own perfection
Each day of ours is usually spent in doing things for ourselves and providing for our needs and desires. We seem to have no time for others. We are usually caught up with a few people, which brings attachment and expectations. We then find ourselves getting caught up with the weaknesses of others.
Solution:
We need to check if our love for others is pure. Where there is pure true love there is kindness and the attitude of bringing benefit. With this attitude of ours we will be able to see each one’s potential for perfection. They too will be able to then work towards their own perfection
Thursday, July 15, 2010
“To be able to bend means to be a giver.”
Projection
There is usually a demand from situations for us to bow and bend. Even when it is not our mistake we are expected to understand or adjust. It seems very difficult at that time and we usually stand straight continuing to do what we believe in.
Solution:
When such storms come in our life, we need to learn the art of bending, just as a flexible tree would bend to save itself in the storm and straighten once the storm passes over. To bend means to try to understand the other person also and to adopt the value of flexibility.
There is usually a demand from situations for us to bow and bend. Even when it is not our mistake we are expected to understand or adjust. It seems very difficult at that time and we usually stand straight continuing to do what we believe in.
Solution:
When such storms come in our life, we need to learn the art of bending, just as a flexible tree would bend to save itself in the storm and straighten once the storm passes over. To bend means to try to understand the other person also and to adopt the value of flexibility.
“Trust brings help from others.”
Projection:
Many times we find that we are not able to get sufficient help from others. We seem to be struggling all alone. We do expect help from others and might say so in words too, but we find that we are not always able to get full cooperation from others.
Solution:
We will not get help from others if we expect and demand from others. Instead we need to develop faith in others that they will help. For this we need to develop total respect for each and everyone. It is this respect that will naturally encourage the other person to help us.
Many times we find that we are not able to get sufficient help from others. We seem to be struggling all alone. We do expect help from others and might say so in words too, but we find that we are not always able to get full cooperation from others.
Solution:
We will not get help from others if we expect and demand from others. Instead we need to develop faith in others that they will help. For this we need to develop total respect for each and everyone. It is this respect that will naturally encourage the other person to help us.
“Humility helps us maintain good relationships with others.”
Projection
When involved in something that we are doing, we naturally come into contact with a lot of people. We sometimes find that we are not able to get along with certain people. We find it very difficult to maintain a good relationship with them and finally avoid dealing with them all together.
Solution:
The first thing to do is to avoid thinking that we cannot get along with someone because of their personality. When we remove this first block in our mind we will be able to see the good in all. We will no longer think that we are here to teach them but will humbly learn whatever we can from them.
When involved in something that we are doing, we naturally come into contact with a lot of people. We sometimes find that we are not able to get along with certain people. We find it very difficult to maintain a good relationship with them and finally avoid dealing with them all together.
Solution:
The first thing to do is to avoid thinking that we cannot get along with someone because of their personality. When we remove this first block in our mind we will be able to see the good in all. We will no longer think that we are here to teach them but will humbly learn whatever we can from them.
“Where we are with the truth, there is constant cheerfulness.”
Projection
When everything we do is based on truth, we will have no regrets. If there is any trace of falsehood we will begin to feel guilty. Inner cheer is automatically destroyed by a conscience that bites.
Solution:
In all that we do throughout the day let there be the aim in our mind that we do it the best. When we do everything to the best of our ability we will not regret later. We will then naturally be free from guilt and we will be constantly cheerful.
When everything we do is based on truth, we will have no regrets. If there is any trace of falsehood we will begin to feel guilty. Inner cheer is automatically destroyed by a conscience that bites.
Solution:
In all that we do throughout the day let there be the aim in our mind that we do it the best. When we do everything to the best of our ability we will not regret later. We will then naturally be free from guilt and we will be constantly cheerful.
Monday, July 12, 2010
“To stay in our self-respect is to achieve success.”
Projection:
The opinion of the self is usually based on those around us specially on those who are important to us. We usually find our thoughts being swayed by whatever we hear from others about us. As we continue to hear from others we begin to believe what we hear and consider ourselves the same.
Solution:
We need to recognise our own uniqueness and speciality and make conscious effort to remember and work with them. The more we do this we will be able to maintain our own self-respect. Then we will not be influenced by any criticism but will continue to work for our success.
The opinion of the self is usually based on those around us specially on those who are important to us. We usually find our thoughts being swayed by whatever we hear from others about us. As we continue to hear from others we begin to believe what we hear and consider ourselves the same.
Solution:
We need to recognise our own uniqueness and speciality and make conscious effort to remember and work with them. The more we do this we will be able to maintain our own self-respect. Then we will not be influenced by any criticism but will continue to work for our success.
Tuesday, July 06, 2010
“The ones with pure thoughts experience safety in all situations.”
Projection
When there are negative situations, we usually get negative thoughts very easily. Such negative thoughts take us further into negativity. We get caught in this circle of negativity and we then can’t make our thoughts positive.
Solution:
We need to take care that we don’t blame anyone when we are going through any negative situation. We need to maintain whatever positivity we can in the situation, and we will find our mind changing towards positive too. It is this positivity that acts as a means of safety for us.
When there are negative situations, we usually get negative thoughts very easily. Such negative thoughts take us further into negativity. We get caught in this circle of negativity and we then can’t make our thoughts positive.
Solution:
We need to take care that we don’t blame anyone when we are going through any negative situation. We need to maintain whatever positivity we can in the situation, and we will find our mind changing towards positive too. It is this positivity that acts as a means of safety for us.
Monday, July 05, 2010
“Where there is courage there is success.”
Projection
When we are involved in a task, we sometimes experience setbacks. Such setbacks often make us lose our confidence and we no longer have faith that we will succeed in the task. We then lose all courage to go ahead with the task and lose every chance of achieving what we have to.
Solution:
We need to remind ourselves that we achieve success to the extent that we have courage. We need to make effort to maintain our courage even during the most difficult circumstances. Only when we do this will we continue to put in effort, which will bring us success at the right time.
When we are involved in a task, we sometimes experience setbacks. Such setbacks often make us lose our confidence and we no longer have faith that we will succeed in the task. We then lose all courage to go ahead with the task and lose every chance of achieving what we have to.
Solution:
We need to remind ourselves that we achieve success to the extent that we have courage. We need to make effort to maintain our courage even during the most difficult circumstances. Only when we do this will we continue to put in effort, which will bring us success at the right time.
Sunday, July 04, 2010
“To recognize the uniqueness of one’s own role is to be free from negativity”
Projection:
When we find things going wrong with us, we sometimes wish for a change in our role. We begin to compare ourselves with others or wish for something better in our life, which makes us lose all our enthusiasm. We, then, make no effort to better our role.
Solution:
We need to recognize the importance of our own role. Like an actor who doesn’t make effort to change his role but brings perfection to his own role, we, too, need to concentrate on our own role. The recognition of the importance of our own role and the desire to bring excellence to it makes us free from negativity.
When we find things going wrong with us, we sometimes wish for a change in our role. We begin to compare ourselves with others or wish for something better in our life, which makes us lose all our enthusiasm. We, then, make no effort to better our role.
Solution:
We need to recognize the importance of our own role. Like an actor who doesn’t make effort to change his role but brings perfection to his own role, we, too, need to concentrate on our own role. The recognition of the importance of our own role and the desire to bring excellence to it makes us free from negativity.
“Perfection comes to the one who is open to learning.”
Projection:
When we realize having made a mistake, we usually have negative thoughts about ourselves. This is because we expect the best out of ourselves, i.e., we expect ourselves to be perfect in everything we do. But this expectation prevents us from taking naturally the learning from the situation.
Solution:
We need to realize that perfection does not come by thinking about it but by being busy in whatever we are doing. With every action of ours comes learning and this automatically brings perfection.
When we realize having made a mistake, we usually have negative thoughts about ourselves. This is because we expect the best out of ourselves, i.e., we expect ourselves to be perfect in everything we do. But this expectation prevents us from taking naturally the learning from the situation.
Solution:
We need to realize that perfection does not come by thinking about it but by being busy in whatever we are doing. With every action of ours comes learning and this automatically brings perfection.
Friday, July 02, 2010
“The one who is truly fortunate is constantly enthusiastic.”
Projection
When we find things going wrong with us, we immediately find ourselves losing all enthusiasm. We then do nothing to change our situation but just begin to curse our fate. With such an attitude we can do nothing to change our fortune.
Solution:
When things go wrong, we have to recognize the fact that it is the present that is in our hands. We don’t need to think of what happened in the past and curse our fate. Instead we need to fill ourselves with enthusiasm to make the best use of the present to make our future the best.
When we find things going wrong with us, we immediately find ourselves losing all enthusiasm. We then do nothing to change our situation but just begin to curse our fate. With such an attitude we can do nothing to change our fortune.
Solution:
When things go wrong, we have to recognize the fact that it is the present that is in our hands. We don’t need to think of what happened in the past and curse our fate. Instead we need to fill ourselves with enthusiasm to make the best use of the present to make our future the best.
Thursday, July 01, 2010
"To understand that each one is unique is to have respect."
Projection:
We usually expect others to change according to our expectations. We actually want everyone to get moulded according to our own value system. But it doesn’t happen so because each one is different.
Solution:
We need to understand that each one is unique with their own specialities. When we look at others in this way we will no longer expect others to change according to our wish but will have full respect for them.
We usually expect others to change according to our expectations. We actually want everyone to get moulded according to our own value system. But it doesn’t happen so because each one is different.
Solution:
We need to understand that each one is unique with their own specialities. When we look at others in this way we will no longer expect others to change according to our wish but will have full respect for them.
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